Dad actually cleans gun in front of date and daughter not happy

[hotfarmboy1]

My daughter is 17. Her current boyfriend first came over to the house while I was cleaning "All of my guns". I had no idea he was fearful of guns. LOL.
My daughter had fun with it as well as she herself has answered the door while holding an AR.
They have been dating for 6mos or so and I have taken him shooting with us a couple of times. He likes the Marlin 60 and the Walther P22. The other guns still intimidate him. My daughter who shoots everything still gives him a hard time.
She told him the other day that she was proud of him for not being afraid of me. To which he replied " I can talk to your dad, but he still scares the **** out of me."
And that is the way it should be.

Sounds like you taught your daughter well!! He sounds like a pretty big ***** to so far only be willing to shoot the 22's. At least he is scared of you, that's a good thing.

 

[BloodEclipse]

Sounds like you taught your daughter well!! He sounds like a pretty big ***** to so far only be willing to shoot the 22's. At least he is scared of you, that's a good thing.

He lost his Dad to an auto accident when he was young and Mom has not allowed him to really be a boy, if you know what I mean.
Dads have a way of overriding the protective nature of Moms so that their boys develop into men and their girls know how to handle themselves.

 

[hotfarmboy1]

He lost his Dad to an auto accident when he was young and Mom has not allowed him to really be a boy, if you know what I mean.
Dads have a way of overriding the protective nature of Moms so that their boys develop into men and their girls know how to handle themselves.

Oh ok, you do have a good point there. I hope you can be a good influence on him then.

 

[RachelMarie]

The roles will be switched in my family. I will be the one meeting the boyfriend with Gun in tow. I'm pretty stoked about it...lol.

 

[Claddagh]

As I don't have a daughter, I'll have to do the Will Smith part to his Martin Lawrence in that hilarious scene from "Bad Boys II" with my niece's husband when their daughters start dating. He's a former Corrections Officer and shares my weird sense of humor.

 

[IN_Varmntr]

As I don't have a daughter, I'll have to do the Will Smith part to his Martin Lawrence in that hilarious scene from "Bad Boys II" with my niece's husband when their daughters start dating. He's a former Corrections Officer and shares my weird sense of humor.

"You ever made love to a man?"
"No."
"You want to?"

 

[spartan933]

I don't have any kids yet. But, when I was 19, (ten years ago), I was dating a girl for a few weeks when I finally went to her house to pick her up. Her father was there. She's getting ready upstairs and he blatantly threatens me with castration if his daughter was mistreated.

I stood up, said, "Frankly sir, I don't like being threatened by anyone and to be honest your daughter is not worth the trouble since I already got what I wanted from her." I turned and started walking towards the door as he was yelling at me to get out of his house. The last thing I heard from the girl was, "Where's Andrew?"

Now, I know you fathers out there think it's okay to break out the weapons and make guys aware of your capabilities as they pertain to retribution for an upset daughter. But, I do not recommend you tell a guy, "Treat my daughter like a lady or I am going to cut your balls off and make you a lady."

Because, most young guys are going to be pissed, and make sure they "love them and leave them" instead of trying to cultivate a meaningful relationship. I think this is especially true for high school guys.

Do I feel bad about what I did, not really so much for what I said to her father. He made himself clear and so did I. I feel bad for the girl. I think afterward her father had the "talk" with her and she got into quite a bit of trouble.

Don't hate. It was ten years ago and I was a teenager.

 

[PwrCruz]

We had our 17 year old niece live with us for a 1 1/2 yrs. a few years ago since then she has a bachelor's degree in accounting ,married and has a family of her own. But when she lived with us I made it a point that we had to meet her date the first time they would go out. When they would show up we would ask the usual questions then I would take them out to the garage and give them the Uncle Frank speach and do a little show and tell first I would tell them," I have a .45 and a Shovel if any harm is done to my niece while with you ,you will disappear" then I would pull back the tarp on the work bench and show them the Colt and Shovel.
Need less to say she always came home on time and unhurt.

 

[Archaic_Entity]

Haha. Well, it worked a bit backwards for me with my ex.

Our first date I took her out to a gun range and we went shooting with my family and a recruiting Sergeant that was a 'friend' of mine (as much of a friend as they can be while still trying to get you to enlist). It was rather amusing because she was definitely very nervous about it all. We ended up lasting for 4 years, so apparently it wasn't the worst impression possible.

Either way, I don't know how much like that dad I will be. Probably somewhat similar, but no veiled threats for me. I would rather just raise my daughter to have self-respect. No means no, and she'll know how to enforce her no. Problem is that a girl's gonna do what a girl wants to do, regardless whether or not you, as a father, want her to. I'd rather just raise her to have a sense of personal morality and respect, and if she wants to sleep with a guy... far be it from me to say she can't. Unless she's stupid enough to do it while in my house. That... will be a sh*tshow.

 

[Soundslikejosh]

.....
Either way, I don't know how much like that dad I will be. Probably somewhat similar, but no veiled threats for me. I would rather just raise my daughter to have self-respect. No means no, and she'll know how to enforce her no. Problem is that a girl's gonna do what a girl wants to do, regardless whether or not you, as a father, want her to. I'd rather just raise her to have a sense of personal morality and respect, and if she wants to sleep with a guy... far be it from me to say she can't. Unless she's stupid enough to do it while in my house. That... will be a sh*tshow.

Why does the location seem to be the thing that bothers you? It's ok, just don't do it at my house. Not trying to be rude, I just don't understand what the difference is. Instead she can risk a public indecency charge? Or better still, go to a friend's house where they are having a party? Much safer than hanging out at home, right?

 

[Claddagh]

"You ever made love to a man?"
"No."
"You want to?"

I thought I'd do the bit about "I ain't scared of goin' back to prison!" while waving a Beretta in the air first and see how he reacts to that. If that doesn't seem to get to him enough, then I can always move on to my famous John Astin impression where I tell him "But I'm really feeling much better now" and grin.

 

[Bushido Devil Dog]

First boyfriend of my daughter got a bullet with his name on it (literally).

Repped ya for that one...and you get another one if you handed it to him while this was playing in the background:

[ame="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dOO4VZeH4-g"]YouTube - Nonpoint-Bullet With A Name[/ame]

 

[Jay]

This one's been around a while, but it's still relevant.......

Rule One:
If you pull into my driveway and honk, you'd better be delivering a package, because you're sure not picking anything up.
Rule Two:
You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter's body, I will remove them.
Rule Three:
I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don't take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose his compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, in order to ensure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely in place to your waist.
Rule Four:
I'm sure you've been told that in today's world, sex without utilizing a "barrier method" of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate: when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you.
Rule Five:
In order for us to get to know each other, you may think we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on his subject is "early."
Rule Six:
I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.
Rule Seven:
As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process that can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge. Instead of just standing there, why don't you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?
Rule Eight:
The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter: Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool. Places where there are no parents, policemen, or nuns within eyesight. Places where there is darkness. Places where there is dancing, holding hands, or happiness. Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my Daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka zipped up to her throat. Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided. Movies, which feature chainsaws, are okay. Hockey games are okay. Old folks homes are better.
Rule Nine:
Do not lie to me. I may appear to be a pot-bellied, balding, middle-aged, dim-witted has-been. But on issues relating to my daughter, I am the all-knowing, merciless god of your universe. If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I have a shotgun, a shovel, and five acres behind the house. Do not trifle with me.
Rule Ten:
Be afraid. Be very afraid. It takes very little for me to mistake the sound of your car in the driveway for a chopper coming in over a rice paddy outside of Hanoi. When my Agent Orange starts acting up, the voices in my head frequently tell me to clean the guns as I wait for you to bring my daughter home. As soon as you pull into the driveway you should exit your car with both hands in plain sight. Speak the perimeter password, announce in a clear voice that you have brought my daughter home safely and early, then return to your car - there is no need for you to come inside. The camouflaged face at the window is mine.


I received this years ago. A reader recently shared that the original author was W. Bruce Cameron. Bruce's original work can be viewed at Copyright © 1998 W. Bruce Cameron http://www.wbrucecameron.com.

 

[cce1302]

When I met my father in law for the first time, I was a 23 year old Marine 2d lieutenant. His daughter was grown up and out of the house, living near Wash DC at the time. She and I had already been dating, so there was no "touch my daughter and I'll kill you" speech or anything like that. I had brought along a couple guns on the trip, though, and we went shooting; broke a few pigeons, then did a little revolver shooting as well. More of a bonding experience than anything, especially since I outshot both him and his sons (now my brothers in law).
Had a nice family get-together that weekend as well, since it was Independence Day. I got to meet his 5 brothers as well. Average height/weight of the 6 gentlemen is about 6'4" and probably 275#. I do remember saying "yes sir" "no sir" and "good to meet you sir" a lot that weekend.
He also gave me his blessing to marry his daughter that weekend. 7 years ago next month.

I don't know what approach I'll take when my daughter starts dating. She'll be one in two weeks, so I have a little time to plan. I probably won't be cleaning any guns or anything, but I'll certainly make it clear what my expectations are.
Her big brothers will probably be of some use as well.

 

[henktermaat]

I have been joking about doing this for 5 years. I don't think I would though...

 

[dsol]

My line in just a few more years as I clean a rifle on the kitchen table: "An old sargeant taught me how to hit a man in the head at 500 yards with one of these. It's not all that hard and...
...
...
... it's kind of fun".

 

[ATM]

I have taken daughter's boyfriend to the range to shoot as well. Wanted to make sure he didn't confuse me with a mere "collector."

 

[target64]

Second time I met the now Son-in-law I was just cleaning a 12ga....The next time I showed him the gun cabinet, and pointing to one of the rifles..I told him I would give him the first 400 yards, before I opened the cabinet. But the Funniest was on their wedding day, after the service.....I shook his hand gave him a guy hug....and whispered in his ear that it was now legal for me to shoot out right.....I thought the kid was going to **** himself.......lol...His dad even chuckled....

 

[tyler34]

my wife has finally comes to terms that I will be "that dad", my plan is actually very similar to the bullet with a name. when he comes over he will be escorted to my sanctuary. there I will ask him his name, once he tells me I say wait a second and fumble through a box labeled boyfriends. I tell him I don't have that name on file hold on, then break out my metal engraver and proceed to etch his name on a bullet casing. I then show it to him and say have a great evening if anything goes wrong I will put part of that bullet in the boyfriend box, guess which half?(I actually already have the engraver)

 

[mettle]

My kinda dad!

I plan on this scenario happening when my daughter wants to take some guy out...