Ok, Evan, lemme see you hit a curve ball....
My wife's previous employment - Emergency Room Nurse and Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner!
Ok, Evan, lemme see you hit a curve ball....
My wife's previous employment - Emergency Room Nurse and Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner!
Ok, Evan, lemme see you hit a curve ball....
My wife's previous employment - Emergency Room Nurse and Sexual Assault Nurse Examiner!
The subject has been broached at the TechNerd household. Suffice to say, my wife is less than enthusiastic about me carrying when we're out and about. Now, I've read enough articles, forum posts, and blog entries that I could defend my rights against John Q with relative ease. That conversation has been infinitely more difficult with my wife.
To preface, I haven't carried for several years. I've owned a pistol the whole time I've been around her, and she has, in fact, bought me a long gun as a gift. But, to her, locked in a firebox in the closet and snapped into a holster on my hip are two WAY different ballparks.
I'm asking, then, fellow gun owners (and maybe a few spouses). How did you work around the issue in your household?
Perhaps she has little experience with firearms? Have you ever taught her? How did you present the idea to her? As a woman myself, I would be really offended if you just "did it anyway". Without having included her in this decision. If you just carry it anyway without considering her feelings or concerns, perhaps she may feel you are ignoring or dismissing her concerns. This is not something most wives respond well to. Obviously she's ok with having guns in the house (she bought you one). So an honest and non-threatening conversation may help. Remember, she has a reason for feeling the way she does. Have you ever asked her?
Ok I thought more about it. . .
Ask her if she realizes how thin the line is between laying on an exam table bleeding, and being the one examining, really is.
Explain that arming yourself with a handgun sure widens that margin.
Oh, and for the scaring scenarios, I prefer sharing the stories where the good gals win. I.E. don't add fear, add hope and success. Tell her every time a woman puts down a bad guy in defense of her life and dignity.
That kind of empowerment is what will turn her. If you pile on the stories of fear then she will cower in the "they'd just take it from you and use it on you" corner and you will get nowhere. Additionally, you will just become Mr. Downer.
Give her the good stories and explain that you want to be like the winners and that in those situations no other solution was viable. Tell her that you want to have the same chance those people had if the same situation ever arose.
Those stories can make for love and support. Add on the fear and you will just lose. Plus, CCW is not about fear, it is about life and survival.