I grew up with none of the things you are speaking on. The bad things you're call "Black culture," isn't that at all. It's simply "bad culture," and no one is exempt from it. But you knew that because you specifically pointed out "all of the things i mentioned are pushed on us (all of us) as black culture." I appreciated that.
My problem, with how you framed your post, is that there seem as if you have the expectation that the "Black community," should address those issues because they are "Black issues." Well, unless there is a belief that Blackness includes some sort of genetic flaw that makes us prone to issues, then it's not a "Black issue," It's a community issue. Issues that communities all across the nation have, melanin content varying.
Okay, let's look at one "culture" issue. What attitudes are different in "Black culture" vs "White culture" that cause 65% of black children to live in single-parent homes? Is that cultural? Or is it something else? Is it racism?
What attitudes are different in "White culture" vs "Black culture" that causes 75% of white children to live in two-parent homes? Is that a fair question? Is that something that only black individuals can solve? How do white people fix that? I think it takes individuals to fix that.
That's how I took grillak's thoughts.