"Find a girl, settle downHere's the real controversial one: Date with purpose, because it doesn't get any easier with age and this will be the best opportunity of your entire life to set yourself up with someone who matches you and has the potential to be a Serious Person. Everyone will be screaming at you to stay casual but, I assure you, you do NOT want to be bottom feeding on leftovers in your 30s. Happiness is married senior year and kids by 26.
This^^^^^^^^^^I would start with make sure you need to be going in the first place.
I know college isn't for everyone, but for some career fields it is still necessary.This^^^^^^^^^^
I don't think I'm entirely down on liberal arts...so long as you have a plan in addition to that liberal arts degree.About eight years out from my last college experience as of now, some observations:
-STEM or nothing. Humanities and etc degrees don't teach any hard, marketable skills to justify today's enormously inflated costs. When you ask about this, the answer you get is "you learn those in grad school". Humanities undergrads exist solely to upsell you.
-You have abundant free time and the metabolism of a 20 year old. Use all those facilities you're paying for, crush it at the gym and build your fitness and lifelong good habits. Don't be a slob alone in a dorm room.
-You'll see a lot of stupid people do very stupid things. Those are valuable lessons. Don't be afraid to go out and watch some ships sink, just make sure you're not handcuffed to the rail.
-PROFESSORS GIVE YOU POINTS FOR SHOWING UP AND TALKING. Go to class. Attend class. Ask questions. You are paying through the nose for this, so at least show up and be there for it.
Here's the real controversial one: Date with purpose, because it doesn't get any easier with age and this will be the best opportunity of your entire life to set yourself up with someone who matches you and has the potential to be a Serious Person. Everyone will be screaming at you to stay casual but, I assure you, you do NOT want to be bottom feeding on leftovers in your 30s. Happiness is married senior year and kids by 26.
The whole "dating with a purpose" thing. Totally agree. I think "courting" is the ideal way to do that. Definitely not participating in "hook up" culture.About eight years out from my last college experience as of now, some observations:
-STEM or nothing. Humanities and etc degrees don't teach any hard, marketable skills to justify today's enormously inflated costs. When you ask about this, the answer you get is "you learn those in grad school". Humanities undergrads exist solely to upsell you.
-You have abundant free time and the metabolism of a 20 year old. Use all those facilities you're paying for, crush it at the gym and build your fitness and lifelong good habits. Don't be a slob alone in a dorm room.
-You'll see a lot of stupid people do very stupid things. Those are valuable lessons. Don't be afraid to go out and watch some ships sink, just make sure you're not handcuffed to the rail.
-PROFESSORS GIVE YOU POINTS FOR SHOWING UP AND TALKING. Go to class. Attend class. Ask questions. You are paying through the nose for this, so at least show up and be there for it.
Here's the real controversial one: Date with purpose, because it doesn't get any easier with age and this will be the best opportunity of your entire life to set yourself up with someone who matches you and has the potential to be a Serious Person. Everyone will be screaming at you to stay casual but, I assure you, you do NOT want to be bottom feeding on leftovers in your 30s. Happiness is married senior year and kids by 26.
Which unfortunately as a young man now is about as easy as finding a needle in a haystack.The whole "dating with a purpose" thing. Totally agree. I think "courting" is the ideal way to do that. Definitely not participating in "hook up" culture.
And the most important one for the guys... "Dont stick your **** in crazy."The whole "dating with a purpose" thing. Totally agree. I think "courting" is the ideal way to do that. Definitely not participating in "hook up" culture.
Or if you do, be prepared to keep it there. After 19 years, DoggyMama and I have started the process of getting a marriage license.And the most important one for the guys... "Dont stick your **** in crazy."
Understood, but for many Liberal Elites Universities are the only way. Prime Example our son elected to follow in my footsteps . He is now a Paris Island Alumni. My Wife’s Mother started a college Fund for him in which she revoked because if he decides not to re up he is going to attend a Nationally recognized and accredited Trade School. He has no desire and for him to attend a University is not something he is going to do. But according to my MIL by marriage only he will surely burn in **** and be destined to be a failure in life unless he attends the U of M yes she is an Ann Arbor elitist.I know college isn't for everyone, but for some career fields it is still necessary.
why now?Or if you do, be prepared to keep it there. After 19 years, DoggyMama and I have started the process of getting a marriage license.
We wanted to make sure we got along.why now?
Well at least you did not rush in to it and proceeded with caution, very wise indeed.We wanted to make sure we got along.