The call nobody wants

[deo62]

Started to write this post a few times so please bear with me. Three weeks ago we got a call to tell us our youngest grandson(13) took his own life. To say we are devastated is a gross understatement. Never in a million years would we have seen this coming. Was just talking about him being so well adjusted and strong. We took him kayaking, taught him firearm safety, took to movies, he stayed here at grandmas/grandpas house as he was growing up a lot. He was avid in sports-baseball, football. Was well liked at school. Always had a smile and a laugh(even for corny grandpa jokes). We are just at a loss. We have been taking care of his older brother(14) most days since. Him and I have had several long talks, surprising how mature he is. He is dealing with it well, we keep him occupied as much as possible. Football practice helps with that a lot as most of his friends are there. Wife and I have our days, sometimes I go from why?? to anger at him. Cant understand this. Not a child into trouble or drugs. He did send a message to his friend. I'll leave it at that. I guess I'm just trying to think out loud. Thank you for listening. There really are no words to say for something like this. Maybe if this help someone to reach out to their own child/grandchild and talk to them even when you think everything is all right then I guess it helps. Again thanks for listening.

 

[Ziggidy]

My prayers for you and your family. I am so sorry.

 

[rhamersley]

Don’t have any words of wisdom or anything, but know that your family are in our prayers.

 

[Hatin Since 87]

That is heartbreaking. Very sorry for your loss. I hope you find comfort in his older brother and he finds comfort in you.

 

[Hoosierdood]

Wow. I can't imagine the pain that you are feeling right now. I also can't imagine what it must be like being an adolescent growing up in today's culture. They have to deal with so much. My thoughts and prayers for your family.

 

[d.kaufman]

Prayers inbound. So sorry for your loss

 

[Bennettjh]

I sincerely will be praying for your family. Terribly sorry.

 

[Expat]

Prayer sent for y'all. I am very sorry. I wish there was something I could say that would help, but I know there isn't.

 

[1775usmarine]

Sorry for your loss.

 

[Nazgul]

Spent the day with one of my grandsons today. So sorry.

Breaks my heart to hear things like this.

Prayers for you and your family.

Don

 

[Ingomike]

So sorry. Prayers sent for all...

 

[armalitesheepdog]

I wish I had somthing to say. There are no words that can heal that wound.
I hope you find the strength

 

[rooster]

I’m so sorry to hear this. Losing a child/grandchild is one of the hardest things that can happen in life.

my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

 

[BigRed]

Very sorry to hear this.

While I do not know you personally, I do not need to for keeping your family in prayers.

 

[jwamplerusa]

Though inadequate, you and yours are in my prayers. Hold your loved ones close

 

[doddg]

I am stunned & cannot begin to fathom the staggering grief.
Thanks for sharing this, there are people here who have gone through this in one of its many facets, and even though there are no words, I hope you find some peace in processing this.
To be blindsided by this & not know he was struggling is an acute kind of frustrating pain.
I truly am so sorry.

 

[Magyars]

My sincere condolences for your loss.
I will pray for you and your family.

 

[Zeb]

Absolutely devastating. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. Praying for you folks.

 

[funeralweb]

I'm sorry you and your family have been dealt such a tragic loss. Keep that young man's memory alive. I wish we could better detect this silent killer but sadly, there are twice as may suicides as homicides. So heartbreaking. Prayers for strength...

 

[Super Bee]

I am so sorry to hear this. Will be praying for you and your family.