I can relate. My wife's reaction would be "What will the neighbors think?"
OMG, I love those sammiches."I have no idea, but *I* think I'll have another Monte Cristo. With extra raspberries. What, you're not back yet?"
No, they're not. They're just not her cup of tea. I don't like scopes on rifles, preferring to shoot irons instead. You don't see me making asinine comments that scoped rifles are stupid.I offered to buy her a pink AR, her comment? "Pink guns are stupid."
Sounds like you got it resolved, or at least started on the right path.Married 15 years, one kid and no, we have never been in a situation that would have warranted it's use. We try not to put ourselves in harms way if we do not have to.
I have talked to my father-in-law about carrying. His views are a bit different since he works in a neighboring state that doesn't allow CC.
His thoughts were to be careful, learn how to carry correctly and keep my wits about me should something arise. My main question to him was about chambering a round, his thoughts were that yes, I should, that if I were to need my weapon that I would not want to add time in such a situation. The interesting thing he said was is that while he has had to use his firearm, I should really come to grips with the fact that I would be killing another human being and it is not to be taken lightly, that the mental toll is more than I could imagine. I respect that. It is why I stopped carrying when I was younger, my protection then wasn't as important as it is now, funny how a family changes that.
Soooo...I talked to my wife this morning and asked if she trusted me carrying. She said she did.
I said to her, "good, then lets not worry about what anyone else then." and she said "the only 2 people I worry about is you and your son, screw everyone else"
I then followed up by saying "ok, then I ask you not to worry about them and feel secure that when I am carrying, it is for protecting the two people who mean the world to me"
She said, "ok, since you put it that way"
I would emphasize why you are choosing to carry a firearm.
For my wife, for 1 week I just gave her all the news in our area. Between all the bank robberies, pharmacy robberies, and house invasions, it was clear that crime exists.
I then told her that I care for her and my son far more than what my neighbors or either of our parents think. I frequently said that "you matter more than their approval". Because that is the truth. Not only did it help my wife to understand my motivation...but it added some confidence that I will do what it takes to protect them.
You currently have 2 possible obstacles.
1. Does your wife understand that bad things could happen? Or is she like my mother-in-law who sticks her head in the sand and pretends that nothing bad ever happens anywhere. Without overcoming this, you will have an uphill battle and probably will not have her full support in the future.
2. She needs to know that your motivation for this is not to be "macho" or to show off. It is the concern and the admittance that I am not the strongest, fastest, most agile man. If I were a super ninja, I wouldn't need the gun. But most of us are not super ninjas (unless you happen to be in a mall ). You want to make sure that if a meth head is coming after us for my wallet, I want something that will make him stop and keep everyone in my family safe.
I hope this helps, but this is what helped in our household. Not only does my wife now approve, but she defends our families decision. So much so that she now has her own carry license and revolver as well.
Ain't momma happy, ain't nobody happy. Keep momma happy.
I recently purchased a Glock 19 to use as a CC weapon. My wife winced when I told her I was carrying a few weeks ago. We have since had a discussion on why she is concerned. She is not afraid of the gun itself, we have both been around guns most of our lives, her father is an LEO and rangemaster in a large city, I have been around guns since I was young.
Her concern is also not my reaction to a situation as I am very level headed and have a long fuse. She is more worried about other peoples reactions should they notice that I am carrying.
I dont know that this is a fight I want to take on.
Anyone else have an uncomfortable wife?
My wife was very uncomfortable with me carrying at first. She always wanted me to cover it up when we went out in public (I like to open carry). So i would respect her wishes.
This last fall, while down in the smokey Mountains, she was walking the dog when the dog went on point and started growling. this is on a remote mountain top. she cam RUNNING back into the cabin, screaming for me to grab my gun. so I did, and headed out with a good tactical flashlight as well.
we went back out, dog went on point, and sure enough, in the brush, were a pair of glowing eyes, far too wide to be a raccoon sized critter, too close to be a bear. (they do have mountain lions in that area).
Amazing how an incident will do that for wives. And yes, I have had my wife to the range, she actually enjoys shooting the .22
We quietly backed away, and went back into the cabin.
since then, we have been out and about a couple of times.....ended up in a couple of sketchy areas in town, and she would reach over and pat my left hip, checking to see if I was carrying. she would just smile at me when she found my weapon there.
My point is this, give her time. she will come around. And GENTLY try to get her talked into going shooting (but start with a .22LR gun first). I think you will be surprised. My wife now wants both my kids versed with our guns too.
I recently purchased a Glock 19 to use as a CC weapon. My wife winced when I told her I was carrying a few weeks ago. We have since had a discussion on why she is concerned. She is not afraid of the gun itself, we have both been around guns most of our lives, her father is an LEO and rangemaster in a large city, I have been around guns since I was young.
Her concern is also not my reaction to a situation as I am very level headed and have a long fuse. She is more worried about other peoples reactions should they notice that I am carrying.
I dont know that this is a fight I want to take on.
Anyone else have an uncomfortable wife?
Married 15 years, one kid and no, we have never been in a situation that would have warranted it's use. We try not to put ourselves in harms way if we do not have to.
I have talked to my father-in-law about carrying. His views are a bit different since he works in a neighboring state that doesn't allow CC.
His thoughts were to be careful, learn how to carry correctly and keep my wits about me should something arise. My main question to him was about chambering a round, his thoughts were that yes, I should, that if I were to need my weapon that I would not want to add time in such a situation. The interesting thing he said was is that while he has had to use his firearm, I should really come to grips with the fact that I would be killing another human being and it is not to be taken lightly, that the mental toll is more than I could imagine. I respect that. It is why I stopped carrying when I was younger, my protection then wasn't as important as it is now, funny how a family changes that.
Soooo...I talked to my wife this morning and asked if she trusted me carrying. She said she did.
I said to her, "good, then lets not worry about what anyone else then." and she said "the only 2 people I worry about is you and your son, screw everyone else"
I then followed up by saying "ok, then I ask you not to worry about them and feel secure that when I am carrying, it is for protecting the two people who mean the world to me"
She said, "ok, since you put it that way"
I offered to buy her a pink AR, her comment? "Pink guns are stupid."
I recently purchased a Glock 19 to use as a CC weapon. My wife winced when I told her I was carrying a few weeks ago. We have since had a discussion on why she is concerned. She is not afraid of the gun itself, we have both been around guns most of our lives, her father is an LEO and rangemaster in a large city, I have been around guns since I was young.
Her concern is also not my reaction to a situation as I am very level headed and have a long fuse. She is more worried about other peoples reactions should they notice that I am carrying.
I dont know that this is a fight I want to take on.
Anyone else have an uncomfortable wife?