Girl, 17, Murdered At College – Parents Infuriated After Discovering Death While BROWSING FACEBOOK
I don't even know what to say.
I don't even know what to say.
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It only takes a student about four seconds to post a rumor on Facebook.
It takes time to plan a death notification and do it right. I'm sure the school called the police and wanted verification of who it was. They also aren't just going to call the parents on the phone and say "Hey, your kid's dead. Have a nice day". They'll likely coordinate it with a police department local to the family, who will then coordinate the notification with a Chaplain. I've done a number of them myself and we don't take it lightly, nor do we rush it. We like to do it professionally and know it was done right.
It only takes a student about four seconds to post a rumor on Facebook.
Stschil,
Whose job is it to notify the family that their daughter was found dead in her dorm room?
EDIT: To me, it comes down to how to notify the parents, who are likely not living in the vicinity. It sounds as if this young woman was clearly deceased when she was found. So, the school can call the parents on the telephone, or they can contact their area police department and have a Chaplain tell them face-to-face. I think I'd prefer to be told in person, but everybody is different. In this case, it doesn't sound like it would have mattered as someone posted it to Facebook before any notification could be made.
Sorry, this may twist your panties in a wad, but get over yourself. You are not as important as the family. Those calls can be made by someone else at the same time the Parents are being notified. It shouldn't "take time to plan" it should be established procedure.
There's nothing to get over. My only point is that in the ten to fifteen minutes it takes to make a death notification someone can easily post the incident on Facebook.
I'm still of the opinion that a telephone call to tell someone their loved one is dead is extremely inconsiderate.
I'm still of the opinion that a telephone call to tell someone their loved one is dead is extremely inconsiderate.
I can't say what this schools SOP is, but if its not an official from the College, it should be. I would want noticed as soon as possible, like occured with my nephew. Did my Brother have questions?, sure he did, could the school answer them, no, how could they?. Point is, times have changed, smart phones, social media, texting, etc and their widespread use should be taken into account when establishing procedures for something like this.
Wouldnt you rather be called and told as soon possible, even though your questions can't be answered?