No equal rights for FATHERS in Hamilton county

[smokingman]

I went through this same thing. My custody battle took almost 3 years. but I did finally win. Get a good lawyer,that is what made all the difference in my case.I will pm you.

 

[Richard]

Yea as previously stated Indiana's "family courts" are increadibly biased against the fathers.

I am sorry but I have no advice in which to give you, not even a good attorney is a guarantee of recieving a fair hearing, let alone getting a fair ruling in this State.

 

[jennybird]

I lost my rights to see my son except for 2 days a week 2 hours a day based on a court proceeding that was only alotted 30 minutes that turned into my sons natural mother lying under oath for an hour and 40 minutes. I was only allowed 15 minutes to testify and my wife was not given any time to testify based on no time left for our hearing. I have had my son for the past year over 60% of the time with the majority of overnight visitation based on the natural mothers lack of interest to parent our child although she has custody. This same mother has lost gardianship of 4 of her 6 children with her previous husband. How is it fair to revoke my rights as a father and remove him from his natural surrounding based on 1 hour 40 minutes of lies without hearing the othersides story. Its no wonder so many children grow up without knowing their fathers the way the legal system works.
Anyone know how I can get back into court quickly or to reverse the order. All testimony was about what she believed happened years ago without any first hand knowledge or evidence. My next court date is three month out. How UNFAIR is this to keep a son from knowing his father. 4 hours a week? FATHERS HAVE NO RIGHTS. This was in Hamilton County Superior 5. I wrote my State Rep and the Govenor. This happened Yesterday and I still have not slept. PLEASE HELP ME!

As a single mother of 2 for many, many years, I want to commend you. I didn't have to fight the father of my girls... he disappeared and just didn't care. He was/is an alcoholic and the booze came before his wife and his daughters. I didn't receive support of any kind from him, but that was ok. I was perfectly happy raising them on my own and being 100% responsible for them, even though it was the most difficult thing I've ever done. It was an honor actually. So, from my point of view, I applaud you for caring so much about your children that you are willing to fight for them. No matter the outcome, your children will appreciate you for that some day.

Sleep peacefully tonight dear. Your children undoubtedly know they are loved by their father.

 

[CarmelHP]

In Indiana as long as ONE party knows about the taping it is legal, in other words you can tape your conversations with someone but not theirs with someone.

Here's a good overview: Laws on recording calls - versadial

 

[mike8170]

I feel for you more than you can know.

I don't know how it is in other counties, but when you can walk into a local restuarant, and the judge, all the prosecutors, your divorce attorney, and her divorce attorney are eating breakfast together, you know you are pretty much screwed.
Indiana is not only skewed towards the mother, it is an automatic adversarial system. This makes more money for attorneys, and the longer each one (judge, his attorney, her attorney) can drag it out, the more money everyone makes. It cost me 10K in my divorce, and I have joint physical and legal custody, provide all insurance, end up paying all out of pocket expenses, and STILL have to pay her $100/week. What really kicks me in the b#lls is that she is remarried, they have a 100K/year income, and had to file for bankruptcy late last year.
The only time my girls have been with her more than with me is when I have been overseas.

Sorry for the rant, but it is really irritating to scrape out a living to provide for more than one household, coupled with the fact my kids daily tell me they would prefer to live with me than their mother. It's not they don't like her, but they know I provide for them better.

 

[antsi]

Whatever you do, NEVER say anything negative about the mom in front of the kids. Even if you have to lie, be the bigger person and do not involve the kids in this fight. I wish you well, good luck.

+1

I grew up mostly in the custody of a not-entirely-responsible mother, away from my father. She spent a lot of time bad-mouthing him. He did not bad-mouth her or complain about the situation; he just tried to be there and be as supportive as possible.

By the time I was in my early teens, I was asking to spend more and more time with my dad. When I left for college, I came to visit my dad and stepmom on every school break. Now I live 10 miles from my dad and 500 miles from my mother.

So my over-arching advice - no matter what happens in court - is do not trash talk their mother. If she is that bad, they will figure this out on their own. Eventually they will recognize who their supportive loving parent is and they will seek you out.

You cannot ultimately control what the courts do, but you can control what kind of parent you are within the limitations the court sets out. Do the best you can, be there for them, put their needs first, and your kids will recognize this in the long run.

 

[iam1096]

Thank you guys and gals for everything. I would never say anything bad in front of my son about his mother. It's not his fault his mother is the way she is. It my fault for having my son with her. I am Gald he is here on this earth and I will always make sure he is taken care of. I will fight to be with him and I will always be there for him. I have hundreds for pictures of him on the computer and on my phone. He is always with me. None of you know me, but you have backed me and helped me. It is nice to know that I am not alone.
I going to fine out what I have to do to change these laws and try my best to change them. I know it wouldn't help me but maybe it will help someone later on. No one should have to lose the right to be with their kids. Unless they harm or mistreat them, then they need to be in jail with bubba.

 

[MinuteManMike]

I better never have this happen to me. My kids' mother denies me access and I will kidnap my kids, leave the country and sever all ties to my current life. That garbage is simply unacceptable.

She wants to violate our marriage covenant then after a certain point that's between her & God. She tries to steal my children, she's begging for dire consequences. Never seeing her kids again is a just enough punishment.

I have seen a whoring woman get child support from a man for a girl she knew wasn't his. When she knew who the real father was and because she couldn't have HIM, she told the future husband the kid was his. He never suspected. And not long after having her third kid with him, she divorced him and had him paying child support for both.

Sometimes I think I'd have to have DNA tests for any and all kids I "have".

 

[repair]

I better never have this happen to me. My kids' mother denies me access and I will kidnap my kids, leave the country and sever all ties to my current life. That garbage is simply unacceptable.

She wants to violate our marriage covenant then after a certain point that's between her & God. She tries to steal my children, she's begging for dire consequences. Never seeing her kids again is a just enough punishment.

I have seen a whoring woman get child support from a man for a girl she knew wasn't his. When she knew who the real father was and because she couldn't have HIM, she told the future husband the kid was his. He never suspected. And not long after having her third kid with him, she divorced him and had him paying child support for both.

Sometimes I think I'd have to have DNA tests for any and all kids I "have".

Never ever post something like this because if they find it you will not be allowed to have any unsupervised visitation..... just trying to help

 

[MinuteManMike]

Not likely I'm fathering kids in this lifetime anyway...