So? I'll be that person and say some of it is righteously earned.
If a guy is a dirtbag, he's a dirtbag based on his actions, not where he lives; how he votes or what he looks like. How in the world can someone righteously earn unfair judgment based on race and bigotry? If that's the case, it's not truly earned, is it?
It's being "that" person that hurts relationships.