How to deal with Aggressive Panhandlers

[gregkl]

Often folks get suckered into feeling guilty that they have something, when those that refuse to help themselves don't.

It's a shame that we enable folks to prey on others. As much a shame that we are raising generations of youth to believe that they are helping, when they are actually contributing to poor mental health and potential threats among our society.


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You mean, like our mayor?

 

[The Bubba Effect]

I really need to take "managing unknown contacts".

I spent several years living in Bloomington about a block from the Kroger on second and walnut. I dealt with lots of panhandlers.

My preferred method became locking eyes and giving them a good, forceful "NO" when they start their speel. I make it clear that the sales pitch is over, it failed and i do not care about hurting feelings or looking like a jerk in public. I never had anyone push it past that.

 

[Mr. Habib]

Bingo!

I figured you for of them rich eastside type.

 

[NHT3]

I really need to take "managing unknown contacts".

I spent several years living in Bloomington about a block from the Kroger on second and walnut. I dealt with lots of panhandlers.

My preferred method became locking eyes and giving them a good, forceful "NO" when they start their speel. I make it clear that the sales pitch is over, it failed and i do not care about hurting feelings or looking like a jerk in public. I never had anyone push it past that.

Some people look on kindness as weakness. Eye contact and a strong response will work for most but there are times what Coach would call being
"tactically rude" is required and usually effective.

 

[cosermann]

...I spent several years living in Bloomington about a block from the Kroger on second and walnut. I dealt with lots of panhandlers. ...

We call that one Kro-ghetto. (Not to be confused with Kro-gucci on the east side.)

 

[armalitesheepdog]

Sitting at the stoplight at 21st and Shadeland. A jackpot of three panhandlers all smoking. Lol

I never give the smoker money.
And I smoke....Regretfully

 

[The Bubba Effect]

We call that one Kro-ghetto. (Not to be confused with Kro-gucci on the east side.)

We called them "ghetto Kroger and fancy Kroger "

 

[The Bubba Effect]

As a matter of fact, I was dealing with a lot of this when I took mindset labs intro to force on force.

I told Shae that I was dealing with lots of panhandlers and homeless because of my neighborhood.

He strongly suggested that I sell my house and move somewhere that I was less like to be attacked by a drug addict/psycho.

I initially dismissed his suggestion because I had sunk labor and money into that house and had hopes and dreams. I eventually realized that he was right and sold that house and moved west to the mountains.

Waaay fewer panhandlers in the mountains.

Shae was right!

 

[gregkl]

I figured you for of them rich eastside type.

lol. I actually live on the north side near the stadium. But we do shop at that store since it's on our way to my mom's assisted living facility on the far east side.

 

[gregkl]

As a matter of fact, I was dealing with a lot of this when I took mindset labs intro to force on force.

I told Shae that I was dealing with lots of panhandlers and homeless because of my neighborhood.

He strongly suggested that I sell my house and move somewhere that I was less like to be attacked by a drug addict/psycho.

I initially dismissed his suggestion because I had sunk labor and money into that house and had hopes and dreams. I eventually realized that he was right and sold that house and moved west to the mountains.

Waaay fewer panhandlers in the mountains.

Shae was right!

They don't call that Kroger, "Krogetto" for nothing.

 

[BugI02]

SSS

DDD

Drive, Drag, and Deny

 

[crosse]

If someone tries to forcibly get in my vehicle after I told them not to then they get pepper spray. It's basically kidnapping.

 

[1nderbeard]

I say this with all the certainty of a keyboard warrior....
I would probably tase anyone hanging in my truck windows as I'm trying to leave, especially if anyone other than me is in the truck. I don't think lethal force would be justified, unless they presented some kind of deadly weapon. But a strong leave me alone would be warranted given someone physically restraining you like that.

 

[bwframe]

You mean, like our mayor?

Yes!

Or the Indy mayor, Fort Wayne mayor, Chicago mayor, LA mayor, etc, etc, etc...

The same larger lib run cities that have huge problems with repeat offenders walking freely are the one's with “people without housing,” out of control.



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[bwframe]

As a matter of fact, I was dealing with a lot of this when I took mindset labs intro to force on force.

I told Shae that I was dealing with lots of panhandlers and homeless because of my neighborhood.

He strongly suggested that I sell my house and move somewhere that I was less like to be attacked by a drug addict/psycho.
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Shae was right!

Smart man!


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[wcd]

treat everyone with the respect they DESERVE.

Respect is Earned Never Given. However courtesy comes free of charge until one’s actions dictate otherwise.

 

[wcd]

This. What you are talking about is the technique called "Ask, Tell, Make."

Ask them to go away politely. "no thanks, I cant help you."
Tell them firmly to GTFO. " I SAID I CANT HELP YOU! Move along NOW!"
MAKE them GTFO. (do what is necessary to stop the threat)

But I like OP's method too. Its not stupid if it works.

Worked like a charm, although made a few others jump in the process lol.

 

[wcd]

It's my understanding that when you are occupying your vehicle it is considered the same as your residence. Someone please correct me if that isn't the case.. I think we all know what options are available if someone is trying to enter your home through an open window.

That is the case here.

 

[Libertarian01]

Many years ago I was approached several times in a month by people asking for gas money. I presumed it was a scam and said "no."

However, I started to feel a little guilty. What if I were in deep doodoo and needed help?

So I modified my answer. For anyone that asks for "gas" money I'll buy them them gasoline. I'll meet them at the gas station and put $20 (or whatever) in their tank. Made that offer to several people. One walked off. One called me a bad name. One agreed, I drove to the gas station and he must have gotten lost because he never showed.

I can honestly feel I've done my Christian/civic/social duty trying to help someone without caving in to BS begging. If they truly needed what they said I would have helped. Since they didn't they can kiss off.

Regards,

Doug

 

[d.kaufman]

I roll by In my car and yell get a ****ing job while giving them the finger.

They're usually near a buisness that has "Help Wanted, Paying $15 an hour" on their marquee.