Before I go getting heavy-handed with deleting posts, let me issue this warning first: please be respectful of the OP as it was asked in sincerity and deserves sincere responses.
you need to find a way to get her shooting with you .
My wife hatted guns when we started dating 17 years ago .
now she owns several ..and i have trouble if i go shooting without her ..
trust e you get her shooting and you will have to get a second job to support her gun habit
Buy her a gun and some ammo, worked for me... Oh, but don't make it an anniversary present or birthday present; I strongly recommend NOT giving it on an anniversary.