The OSUT #223 looking towards fall

[DoggyDaddy]

I told her that this was going to really screw with me retiring (if she brings them home). I'll be working until I'm in my 80's if we have to raise these kids. That's if I even live that long.

 

[foszoe]

I told her that this was going to really screw with me retiring (if she brings them home). I'll be working until I'm in my 80's if we have to raise these kids. That's if I even live that long.

Foster kids?

 

[DoggyDaddy]

Foster kids?

No, they're her daughter's kids. She doesn't want to see them go into "the system" (CPS), but truly, that seems like the only viable option. And I hate that because the CPS system is such a ****ed up system.

 

[DoggyDaddy]

If we were 20 years younger? Then yeah, maybe. But we're both 61. The twins are 4, and the other child is 2.

 

[chocktaw2]

If we were 20 years younger? Then yeah, maybe. But we're both 61. The twins are 4, and the other child is 2.

Got room for 1 more? I can change my own diaper. Hello DD, and all the other folks.

 

[DoggyDaddy]

Howdy chock. And no. Unless you want to take the position of au pair and raise the kids yourself!

 

[GregD]

Evening CT2

 

[foszoe]

If we were 20 years younger? Then yeah, maybe. But we're both 61. The twins are 4, and the other child is 2.

Oof. That's a tough one Doggydaddy. My wife wants to adopt/foster 2 kids and I'm 52....I better not say anything to her about the twins....Anyway, she has an autoimmune disorder and every other year has a surgery that takes more and more functionality from her hands. I already do more housework than I would like and I know the desire is there with her, but I fear the workload as the years pass

 

[chocktaw2]

Howdy chock. And no. Unless you want to take the position of au pair and raise the kids yourself!

We have been in the thick of that since we got married.

 

[klausm]

I told her that this was going to really screw with me retiring (if she brings them home). I'll be working until I'm in my 80's if we have to raise these kids. That's if I even live that long.

stuck between a rock and a hard place, no easy answers to this one

 

[chocktaw2]

Good evening GregD, and foszoe.

 

[foszoe]

Evening chocktaw

 

[GregD]

Evening foszoe

 

[chocktaw2]

Wife and her ex adopted 4 siblings 35 yrs ago. A new crisis everyday. Still

 

[klausm]

Wife and her ex adopted 4 siblings 35 yrs ago. A new crisis everyday. Still

35 years?? does the fun never end???

 

[DoggyDaddy]

Oof. That's a tough one Doggydaddy. My wife wants to adopt/foster 2 kids and I'm 52....I better not say anything to her about the twins....Anyway, she has an autoimmune disorder and every other year has a surgery that takes more and more functionality from her hands. I already do more housework than I would like and I know the desire is there with her, but I fear the workload as the years pass

Sorry to hear that about your wife foszoe! But yes, similar situation. DoggyMama has fibromyalgia and neuropathy in her feet and legs and will sometimes just fall down when she's trying to do yard work or even just walking.

She's been through so much... the loss of her younger daughter to drugs, then a severely broken ankle which took months and multiple surgeries to heal, then esophageal cancer and the attendant difficulties with that. I should be an honorary CNA after tending to her through all of that.

She had always been such a hard worker... always in 10th gear. Now she can't do those things and it makes her crazy and of course shifts the burden to me (which is a mantle that I gladly accept).

I'm just not sure I'm up for raising kids. I chose not to have kids for a reason. I love the grandkids though.

 

[chocktaw2]

35 years?? does the fun never end???

It never ends. The social worker who set this up all those yrs ago apologized to the wife 10 yrs ago. Said, "they don't try to keep siblings together anymore, too many problems".

Hello klausm

 

[klausm]

at some point, even with my own kids, I looked at them and said, you want to be treated like adults so start acting like one, and oh yeah, don't let that door hit you in the ass on the way out

 

[DoggyDaddy]

at some point, even with my own kids, I looked at them and said, you want to be treated like adults so start acting like one, and oh yeah, don't let that door hit you in the ass on the way out

That's the way this daughter has been. When you criticize her in any way, it's always "I'm a grown-ass woman"! As soon as you tell her to deal with her problems and grow up, it's always, "But you're my mommy! You're supposed to take care of me!" **** a lot of that.

 

[chocktaw2]

I never tried that I didn't want to experience my fathers wrath.