Sometimes, there are things that you do that affect you for the rest of your life......like it or not.
Getting someone pregnant is something that affects you for the rest of your life.
Committing a crime is something that affects you for the rest of your life.
Even if you were young and stupid..........didn't know better.......never had the opportunity.........etc. The decisions you make and the actions you take are accountable. Just because you are "sorry" now and have been good and upstanding doesn't erase those mistakes of the past.
Here is the best answer you will receive. We coddle poor conduct far too readily in our world today. It's at the core of our problems.