I don't do it much. Lost my Dad 28 years ago. He was up in Starke County (Northern Indiana) and we were down in Texas at the time. He had a long, debilitating illness and we weren't able to help out much. My step-mother had similar problems. Fortunately, my step-sister lived relatively close to her and was able to take care of her in her declining years. She died while I was at a Guard Drill. It's good that you value your family and stand by them.