I feel for you. After doing all the math and balancing pros and cons, we simply chose to be a one income home. I was stay at home for 3 years, and my wife took over and has been running the home for the last 6.
I really feel for parents who are trying to balance the work + daycare balance, but in the end we decided not to keep up with the financial arms race.
Good luck.
Thanks for the well-wishing techres, we're trying to figure out what would work out best for us right now. I'm not against becoming a one-income home, it's just a huge change and we have been "running the numbers" to see what the breaking point would be in childcare costs vs. income to where any financial gains are negated by expenses.