I'm not on any, but I have 2 (male) friends who are, and neither of them have given the experience great reviews. They say that at best it can get you a few more introductions than you might normally get, but for the most part there's more success to be had in finding women via your hobbies and interests.
my wife sent me a friend request on Myspace! We talked online for awhile before we met, started dating shortly after and married a year and half later... We are about 7 months in and expecting our first at the end of the year. I never put much stock in meeting someone online, but I wasn't really a bar go-er either.
Several of her friends had luck on eHarmony, several of my friends joined but no luck, met what are now friends but no one special. Haven't heard too many people that met from Match.com or other places.
lol, ok.....let's see, how to keep some of these INGO friendly......there are lots (LOTS) of guys who will express interest, then disappear....one messaged me the other day, hadn't heard from him in TWO months...but he wanted me to know he hadn't forgotten about me (whatever, lol)....or the guy who had a 2 hour conversation about his "size" or lack of....the one who accused me of cheating on him, BEFORE I had met him in person (I was cheating on him since I had a profile still up). This one also made mention of going to look at Jarrod's website (but said he was just joking, I didn't know him that well, that's not the right answer, lol). The one who said I wasn't interested in him because I have male friends on facebook and made comments on their pages......I'm sure I can think of more.....oh yeah, the guy that thought if our meet-lunch at Denny's went well it would mean we were in a relationship and you get certain privalages (sp?) when you're in a relationship.....
I tried a couple sites and never had any luck. Seems as if everyone I was interested in was waiting for Brad Pitt or Bono to call em up. The few that were interested in me were looking for a daddy to their 5 kids. I gave up. I'm destined to die a lonely bitter old man surrounded by guns and my Corgi....
One, I ended up marrying, she went back to her ex while I was on active duty, spent all my hard earned money putting me a few grand in the hole.. all in all I waisted 7 years of my life with her and we just recently divorced.
Another woman wanted me to be the father of her two sons and wanted to move in with me 20 minutes after we met... We didn't even get our appetizer yet!
And the last one turned out to be a stalker calling me at all hours of the night.
I met my husband online. He asked me to drive to Chicago with him for a concert he was throwing. He sent me a picture with a title that said "Just so you know I'm not a psycho", needless to say the picture made him look a little "rough". Being young and dumb, I sent him my address and told him to pick me up. I was 17, he was 27. The concert never happened as the police broke it up and the land owner backed on an hour before hand. We spent 4 days in Chicago and had the time of our lives. Been together ever since. Split up once for a month 5 years back. Hitting our 9 year mark in June and our 2 year wedding anniversary in August. Couldn't be happier with where we are.
Try a church singles group. Just an idea. I have dated a few times from online as well. I cant say I met all weirdos but I will just say they wernt my type. I also think timing is everything. Some are still buried or living in the past with a bad taste in their mouth. Stay away from those. They are takers and not givers. It really is hard to meet a good or nice guy or lady especially with no baggae sort of speak. The older one gets the harder it is too. If I had the good luck it takes I would be married by now also. All I can say is keep looking but dont settle for what you really dont want.