jblomenberg16
Grandmaster
I was chatting with an INGO member the other night about a real world "MUC" situation that happened this past weekend. He and his wife had some constructive criticisms and after leaving decided that in the spirit of learning from a positive outcome, would share with the rest of INGO. I've left some fine details out to make it a bit more of a generic example, but hope the points still come through. Sorry INGO, no draw down, no intense physical confrontation, not raised voices or flashing of concealed carry badges.
Situation:
Confrontation:
As we pulled into a fast food restaurant in a major metropolitan area, I looked for a spot that was close to the entrance for easy in - easy out access, and also good view of the surroundings. Immediately after putting my vehicle in park and turning off the ignition, I noticed a male approaching from the passenger side rear of the vehicle. Appearance was not unusual, well groomed etc., and looked like any other person that might be walking in for a bio break or a sandwich. Two things did catch my eye however. The individual was wearing a black "Pea Coat" and made eye contact with me through my passenger side mirror as I was watching him. It was chilly (low 60's) but not enough for a heavy coat. So that did get my attention.
Rather than opening the door, I told my child to keep the seat belt on and not leave the vehicle unless I directly said to. I watched the individual walk around the front of my vehicle, now making clear eye contact with me, and approached the drivers door. Ok, I'm going on alert now. I quickly scan my mirrors to see if anyone else is approaching and I don't see anything.
So I'm starting to process the situation and take stock on what is going on here. Do I know this guy? Did I accidentally cut him off at the last intersection? Do I have a flat tire or something that he's being polite and telling me about? Am I about to get carjacked or robbed? For whatever reason my brain is saying its likely not a serious threat, as I'm not seeing any aggressive behavior other than being too close for comfort. The coat is still odd, but perhaps its just what the individual had.
I opened the door to the first stop on the hinge, and he starts talking right away, but keeps his distance. From there I closed the door and rolled the window down enough to be able to talk through and that's it, and he immediately went into an explanation. He was from out of town and his vehicle broke down and he thought it was a bad fuel pump, and he was $14 short of having enough cash on hand to get his vehicle towed. He was trying to get it restarted, and even offered for me to come over and listen for myself to prove this wasn't a scam. He asked if I knew the area and I said "no" I was from out of town. (Maybe a dumb move). He said he needed to get from this location to another town about 20 miles away and said a name that I did recognize. So that in my brain seemed "legit."
He asked if I could help him out with some money to get a tow. At this point I told him to back away from my vehicle in a polite manner (maybe too polite), as I was uncomfortable with the situation, and that I was sorry I couldn't help him. He only pleaded a bit, but after telling him to move back away from my vehicle he kinda put his hands up and said "I'm really sorry man, just trying to get a tow." He walked away and back towards the restaurant, and I watched him until he was a good distance from me.
At this point my child is complaining about really needing to "go" and I'm thinking about what to do next. I scan the mirrors again and look around, and don't see any obvious things to concern me. So I exit the vehicle, and walk around back and help get my child out of the vehicle. I immediately locked the vehicle and we walk to the entrance. I see the individual that confronted us looking into the driver's window a few cars down and hear the occupant of that vehicle saying "just keep trying." Could have been very innocent and it was a travel companion...just keep trying to start it, or if it was a scam artist, his partner in crime.
We go into the restaurant to make a potty break, and I try to angle so I can keep an eye on my vehicle and my child coming out of the restroom. I was 1/2 expecting to see someone trying to get into the vehicle, but instead just saw additional customers come in. We decided to order food, and take it with us to get back on the road. After walking back out I see the same guy sitting on the tailgate of a older truck, talking on a cell phone. I don't see the other vehicle any more.
As we leave, I roll the window down and tell the guy "good luck" and he yells back "thanks man and a thumbs up."
So...who knows, maybe a real break down and just another guy that needed a helping hand. Or, I could have been targeted for a quick buck. Never know for sure of course but a few discussion points.
Fortunately this was a non-event in the grand scheme of things, and something to learn from.
Situation:
- Travelling out of state, but through a state that does recognize the IN LTCH
- Was not carrying on my person as I was planning to visit a declared gun free zone that was US Govt Property, and we did not plan to make any stops on the way
- I did have a handgun in the vehicle with me that was easily and quickly accessible
- Was travelling with a young child that was sitting in the back of my vehicle
- Middle of the day, so great visibility all around
- We had stopped short of our destination for an unplanned potty break
Confrontation:
As we pulled into a fast food restaurant in a major metropolitan area, I looked for a spot that was close to the entrance for easy in - easy out access, and also good view of the surroundings. Immediately after putting my vehicle in park and turning off the ignition, I noticed a male approaching from the passenger side rear of the vehicle. Appearance was not unusual, well groomed etc., and looked like any other person that might be walking in for a bio break or a sandwich. Two things did catch my eye however. The individual was wearing a black "Pea Coat" and made eye contact with me through my passenger side mirror as I was watching him. It was chilly (low 60's) but not enough for a heavy coat. So that did get my attention.
Rather than opening the door, I told my child to keep the seat belt on and not leave the vehicle unless I directly said to. I watched the individual walk around the front of my vehicle, now making clear eye contact with me, and approached the drivers door. Ok, I'm going on alert now. I quickly scan my mirrors to see if anyone else is approaching and I don't see anything.
So I'm starting to process the situation and take stock on what is going on here. Do I know this guy? Did I accidentally cut him off at the last intersection? Do I have a flat tire or something that he's being polite and telling me about? Am I about to get carjacked or robbed? For whatever reason my brain is saying its likely not a serious threat, as I'm not seeing any aggressive behavior other than being too close for comfort. The coat is still odd, but perhaps its just what the individual had.
I opened the door to the first stop on the hinge, and he starts talking right away, but keeps his distance. From there I closed the door and rolled the window down enough to be able to talk through and that's it, and he immediately went into an explanation. He was from out of town and his vehicle broke down and he thought it was a bad fuel pump, and he was $14 short of having enough cash on hand to get his vehicle towed. He was trying to get it restarted, and even offered for me to come over and listen for myself to prove this wasn't a scam. He asked if I knew the area and I said "no" I was from out of town. (Maybe a dumb move). He said he needed to get from this location to another town about 20 miles away and said a name that I did recognize. So that in my brain seemed "legit."
He asked if I could help him out with some money to get a tow. At this point I told him to back away from my vehicle in a polite manner (maybe too polite), as I was uncomfortable with the situation, and that I was sorry I couldn't help him. He only pleaded a bit, but after telling him to move back away from my vehicle he kinda put his hands up and said "I'm really sorry man, just trying to get a tow." He walked away and back towards the restaurant, and I watched him until he was a good distance from me.
At this point my child is complaining about really needing to "go" and I'm thinking about what to do next. I scan the mirrors again and look around, and don't see any obvious things to concern me. So I exit the vehicle, and walk around back and help get my child out of the vehicle. I immediately locked the vehicle and we walk to the entrance. I see the individual that confronted us looking into the driver's window a few cars down and hear the occupant of that vehicle saying "just keep trying." Could have been very innocent and it was a travel companion...just keep trying to start it, or if it was a scam artist, his partner in crime.
We go into the restaurant to make a potty break, and I try to angle so I can keep an eye on my vehicle and my child coming out of the restroom. I was 1/2 expecting to see someone trying to get into the vehicle, but instead just saw additional customers come in. We decided to order food, and take it with us to get back on the road. After walking back out I see the same guy sitting on the tailgate of a older truck, talking on a cell phone. I don't see the other vehicle any more.
As we leave, I roll the window down and tell the guy "good luck" and he yells back "thanks man and a thumbs up."
So...who knows, maybe a real break down and just another guy that needed a helping hand. Or, I could have been targeted for a quick buck. Never know for sure of course but a few discussion points.
- I think I did a good job of situational awareness immediately noticing the individual approaching in an odd manner.
- I'm not sure if I made a good call cracking my window. Better than the door being open, but still may have given the individual a means to try to force entry.
- I probably should have restarted the vehicle. The advice I got in fact in talking through this was I should have just driven away, end of story.
- I'm by nature a pretty polite person upon first acquaintance. I listened to the guys story, even engaged by answer a few questions. It could have been really easy for me to become locked in conversation and distracted from someone coming from another angle.
- I'm not sure if it was smart to leave the vehicle. Had my child not had to REALLY GO to the bathroom (dad's out there, you know what I mean) I would have just driven away.
Fortunately this was a non-event in the grand scheme of things, and something to learn from.
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