"Unless a person has limited strength in their hands, avoid the PK380"
That's why my wife has a PK380; it's the easiest 380 for her to operate.
And few women want to deal with a 9x19 at 20oz and under 6.5" long,
and under 1.2" wide.
Even glocks have a serious problem with recoil jams using a...
A 40 is too much in power and size for her.
A PK380 has some issues, but it shoots, and has a 'long' barrel.
SIG 230/232 are good for 380 carry. And I like the Taurus 738 size/weight.
A carry 9 or 40 is tough for some to operate if they have weak hands.
If she wants a 9 or 40, be sure she tries...